Parenting Through Separation – Raising Secure ChildrenLet’s speak plainly, separation is painful for everyone! In addition to the pain you are going through you know your…Read More
Parenting Resources – Backed by ScienceOne of our guiding principles in Hāpai Whanau is to love without an agenda. This has allowed us to look…Read More
Holding a Bright Vision – When Things Get Messy!None of us are perfect parents, and sometimes family life can look all sorts of wrong. Whilst family can be…Read More
Courage is more important than confidenceI Can’t” — my second son would say, a lot! He felt he couldn’t do something until he first had…Read More
We’re scary when we’re scaredA lot of us get scary — when we’re scared. I’m not talking about being scared of the dark —…Read More
Why nagging doesn’t work“Bla, bla, bla” – Our oldest son said this to my wife when he was a pre-teen. She’d been going…Read More
Women confront to connectNext time your man chops some firewood or does some other ‘manly’ job — go outside, sit in a chair…Read More
The Daughters Who Lead – Mothers EditionDaughters don’t think of themselves as leaders – or parenting as leadership. But the burden of a baby calls daughters…Read More
The Daughters Who Lead – Fathers EditionAs a young man I dreamed about leading. I’d read books to learn, at work I’d take every chance to…Read More
A Fathers PurposeWe’re all in pursuit of meaning – a sense of purpose. This can be tricky for a young father –…Read More
Overcoming Shame – in our families“Why can’t you be more like your sister!”, I said. These words still shame me – they certainly shamed my…Read More
How to Lead Like a Legend – Part 3 – A Safe PlaceWe all want our homes to be safe. When we hear “safe” we think physical safety – and that’s critical.…Read More
How to Lead Like a Legend – Part 2 – Creating Healthy Culture“He hit his sister again”, my wife told me, “they were fighting over the remote”. I’d just walked inside, and…Read More